The founder of Naked Divorce Adèle Théron gives a summary from your report
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Your answers revealed that you are currently trapped within a phase we call Meh!
You'll need to escape this 'trap' before you can become the powerful person you really are. This will not only enable you to recover from this life-trauma, but will also empower you as you move forward in your life.
Your full report is waiting for you, and contains specific case-studies, healing strategies, and quick wins that will help you to transition through this event swiftly, effortlessly, and powerfully.
A summary of your full report is given in the video above, and in the text below.
“Although my breakup was years before, I still wasn't where I wanted to be, or where I should be. My Meh! report was the kick-start I needed"
A summary for those in 'Meh!'
There are 5 specific break-up personality types. Each has their strengths and weaknesses. Learning more about yours will help you move forward…
You are in this state due to a significant emotional trauma. Your body has chosen to be in a state of apathy or Meh! To deflect the painful emotions that you would otherwise be experiencing.
The state of Meh! can often be misunderstood as 'Denial', however there are some subtle but critical differences. Those in Denial tend to be highly functioning and can perform their daily tasks without much difficulty, whilst those in the state of Meh! often find even the smallest of chores or tasks beyond them.
It's not that you can't perform these tasks; you just don't care enough to do so.
The Meh! state will help you suppress the pain of the real emotions that may live deep within you. It can be a 'dark' state though, so be careful. Unlike Denial, those around you will know you are in it, even if they don't what to call it, or why you are there.
You may find yourself being unnecessarily rude (although it's possible you may not even be aware of it), certainly non-caring, and your sense of sympathy is highly diminished.
As a result you may become more isolated from friends, colleagues, family. You may lose interest in work, personal hygiene, and other boring realities of life. This can start a vicious cycle, and you may quickly lose your support network that would normally help you escape it.
Meh! may on the surface appear one of the less extreme of the emotions. Whilst it has less impact on others when compared with for example Anger, or Grieving it can have the deepest and most severe impact on yourself.
Those in the state of Meh! are often those that are least likely to reach out for help. And have the least amount of options to reach out too. This exaggerates the situation. It can also be the hardest to get people out of.
Those that escape it, often resort to drastic measures to shake themselves out of it. If you ever read about Britney Spears shaving all her hair off – you get the idea.
We may mock these people, you may even know someone that performed a similar mid-life-crisis type action, but if that’s what's needed to escape its worthwhile doing. A small shake-up action now, is better than a more dramatic and potentially more damaging shake-up later.
The best short-term advice is to get into routine.
This may feel totally boring and pointless, but it will provide you with some stability, that will eventually help you to process the deeper trauma inside.
Warnings for those feeling 'Meh!'
DONT BE IN DENIAL
MEH! happens when you start to become dead inside. You feel resigned, and you feel like giving up. Nothing is going right for you – so why bother? This is a very dangerous state to be in. It’s time to be courageous and take positive actions to move forward with your life,
before it's too late.
Don't turn to Short Term Emotional Avoidance Tactics (STEATs) like alcohol, social drugs, or over-eating for sanctuary. These will provide a false sense of recovery, which does nothing to address the underlying issues and adds more trauma.
To move forward you first need to slow down and allow yourself to become aware of your emotions. The route to your recovery is THROUGH your emotions. Avoiding your emotions is simply extending your pain.
LEARN THE GRIEVING CYCLE
The reality is that you need to work through three distinct and separate emotional phases following your significant emotional trauma. Our work helps people like you transition through these three phases safely, swiftly and with support throughout.
EAT WELL – HEAL FASTER
After an emotional trauma it's essential to adjust your eating habits and lifestyle to support your healing. Use Cortisol-reduction supplements. Serotonin levels can be controlled through diet and supplements.
ESCAPE HIDDEN AGENDA
This may be hard to hear right now, but the reality is many people in your situation hold their own recovery back. You'll need deep commitment to move to a healthier and more evolved emotional-state, or you may be stuck in the 'Meh!' state indefinitely.
Be aware of your emotions
Draw on your intelligence (not your feelings) to move forward. Be courageous. Take positive and powerful action starting now.
Left unchecked, your apathy (Meh-ness) will rob you of an exciting and fulfilled emotional life. This may affect your career, your family interactions, and prevent you from having fulfilling relationships in the future.