Tag: expressing emotions
Things To Never, Ever Say To Someone Going Through A Divorce
It happens to us all At some point in our lives, most of us will go through a divorce, or at least a very painful breakup. Most of us will also experience being a shoulder to cry on when it happens to someone we love. So when someone close to you tells you they are […]
Are You Trapping Yourself In A Divorce Disaster?
Brutal breakups Every breakup is hard. Every breakup hurts. But there are some times when a breakup is so all-consumingly awful that it’s hard to do anything but wallow in the agony of it. A vindictive, vengeful partner can add tyranny to a situation that is already fraught. These are the people that use threats, […]
Divorce Can Bring Out The Worst In Us. Don’t Let It Turn You Toxic!
To say that divorce is a nasty time is a serious understatement. Your world is crashing down around you. You’re feeling hurt and betrayed by the person you thought you’d spend the rest of your life with. You’re angry and upset. You sure as hell don’t feel like being mature and understanding right now. Trouble is, […]
Waiting Around For Pain to Heal Won’t Work
One Sunday in November, I sat down in a busy coffee shop in Los Angeles. Four women were sitting alone, each quietly drinking their coffee. I observed their postures, their body language, their facial expressions… their sadness. All of a sudden one woman jumped up, wiped her eyes and dashed off. After a while, the […]
Are You a Closet Bunny Boiler?
Be honest, do you sometimes plan or even carry out rage-fueled revenge plots like in the movie Gone Girl? Or worse, when you watched Glenn Close boil Michael Douglas’s bunny, did you secretly nod in sympathy? Find out right now for sure if you’re a closet bunny boiler. Take our free quiz: The ‘How Messed Up […]
Feeling Valentine’s Day Anxiety? 7 Steps to Release and Enjoy the Game Again
Has Valentine’s Day last week given you that lonely, anxious feeling? Well stop it. It’s just a game, and here’s how to remember how to enjoy it. Around this time of year being lonely drives some people into total anxiety about finding the one. The thing is, finding a life partner isn’t about being all […]
Don’t Eat That Cookie! Are You Healing or Avoiding?
When you were young did your mother use to say, “Don’t cry. Here, have a cookie and you’ll feel better”? And you ate the cookie, got distracted and yes, you did actually feel a bit better… for ten minutes. Then the pain came back, and it was time for another cookie. Does this sound at all familiar? […]
7 Reasons Your Bad Divorce Etiquette is Stopping Your Recovery
Four days into my divorce I hadn’t eaten for three days, I’d been in my tracksuit for 36 hours straight and had chain-smoked 40 cigarettes – and I’m not even a smoker. A huge pile of laundry lay on the couch waiting to be ironed, and used tissues were everywhere. The house was in absolute […]
Are You Choosing Your Life Or Just Surviving?
Old stuck emotions held you down, unable to rise above survival mode or think beyond it. When you don’t face those emotions and work to release them permanently you’re just stuck struggling to deal with them day by day, while also trying to operate a normal life and survive.
Stop Saying “I’m Fine” When You’re Not
There are a couple of great untruths in this world: Ticking the box to confirm that you’ve read the Terms and Conditions, telling your kids you’ll help them find the packet of skittles that you ate a few hours ago, and replying “I’m fine” every time someone asks you how you are. This is a […]
