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Surviving Christmas, Divorced or Single!

Hello, my lovelies!

You’ve done your Christmas shopping, drunk some mulled wine, sung your heart out at your office party (oh dear) and eaten your body weight in mince pies. Now what about the dreaded Christmas day itself? There isn’t a gingerbread latte out there that can beat the loneliness and despair of sitting amongst all those jolly family members whilst you try to hide behind a swivel stick.

An eHarmony study done last Christmas found that 47% of singles cited loneliness as the reason they dreaded Christmas. Most of you will actually find Christmas more stressful than Valentine’s day. That sucks.

My first Christmas being single was a massive avoidance warfare game. Every time another family member would veer towards me for the inevitable questions or patting of my arm whilst we discuss my failed marriage, I would duck behind the tree or declare that it was my turn to top everyone’s drinks up.

What made it all the more miserable were all the smug married people hugging each other whilst wearing matching Reindeer jumpers. Positively nauseating. So in tribute to all you suddenly singletons, here are a few tips on tackling December with confidence.

Decorate everything

Ever heard the saying ‘fake it till you make it’? Rather than get somber or depressed, get fully into the Christmas cheer by dragging yourself to the shops, getting a tree, putting it up, decorating your house/room/area.

Just because you’re spending Christmas alone doesn’t mean that you don’t have a right to bask in the Christmas feel that decorations provide. I really do suggest you make a few small decorations even if you don’t feel like it.

Get nice smells around you

Get yourself a vanilla or Christmas fragrance. Research shows that by having nice Christmasy smells around you – you will get into the Christmas spirit.

Get yourself a mighty fine Christmas jumper

Rather than your relationship status being THE topic of conversation, get yourself the loudest and most ridiculous jumper, flashing earrings or reindeer jumpsuit. This shows everyone that although your heart is broken, your sense of humour and sillyness is thoroughly intact and will confuse anyone who approaches you.

Rather than focus on the fact that being single is worse than death incarnate they will instead be forced to discuss your ridiculous attire. If they do ask personal questions, just switch on some lights within your outfit and ask them what the worst outfit was that they ever saw.

Gather round, one and all

If the prospect of walking into a gathering of family or friends without someone on your arm is wholly intimidating, fight that feeling.

The truth is that people are paying far less attention to you than you think they are. Simply try to enjoy the company of friends and family you don’t often see.

After all, what’s funnier than Aunt Margaret after a few too many sherries? If you really can’t face it, coerce a friend into going with you – but take care if you think all your attention will be spent making sure they’re ok rather than socialising – it’s a pointless exercise.

Challenge everyone to a game

Rather than chat aimlessly about deep and meaningful things – challenge everyone to a game of monopoly, scrabble, rummy or Twister.  Tell everyone that you mean business; when they ask deep questions tell them there is no time for such distractions because you need to focus on destroying Auntie Bess at scrabble. That will shut everyone up.

Volunteer

So you’ve got some spare time on your hands. There is always someone sadder than you, and don’t you forget that! Why not volunteer for a charity such as Crisis or a soup kitchen in your local area over Christmas?

Amazingly, some charities get oversubscribed for volunteers on Christmas Day and Boxing Day, yet there’ll always be someone in need at some point over the festive season.

Don’t be the only single person at the party

While you should stay social, try to avoid being the only single person at a party if you think it will bother you. Take a friend with you and enjoy yourself.

Being single rocks at Christmas

There are actually lots of bonuses to being single at Christmas – no agonizing over presents for your partner, no stress over whose house to eat Christmas dinner at, being able to go to any party you want…the list goes on.

Still feeling miserable? Christmas puts huge pressure on couples too. According to Family Mediation Helpline, there are 1.8 million considering divorce over the period.

Remember also that there is life after Christmas – after all, in just a week it’ll be January. (And if the prospect of a cold and grey January doesn’t persuade you to enjoy the moment, nothing will!)

It could be a good time to find the one

The Dream Relationship Challenge

Still not convinced? Come and join me in a unique coaching challenge – it’s called the DREAM Relationship Challenge. It’s a 21-day program to help you find the one after completing the Naked Divorce program. For 10 lucky people we have a unique offer just because it’s Christmas!

I have 10 slots available for the all new DREAM RELATIONSHIP program. It’s a new coaching/hypnotherapy program I have created. The taster consists of:

  • 1 Hour coaching with me
  • 21 Day Dream Relationship Audio programme
  • 21 Day Dream Relationship workbook

All for just £79.99. If you are interested, contact our angels with the code: RELATIONSHIP787

To those of you who have followed my musings on Naked Divorce and been part of the hundreds who have done the program in its inaugural year: THANK YOU.

Thank you for believing in our work and for being people that are courageous enough to want to build new lives within 21 days. I honour you and respect you hugely. Thank you so much for your love and support and for giving me an amazing purpose to live into.

I wish you a blessed festive season! Be safe, be jolly, eat, drink and be merry.

 

 

Lots of hugs!

Adele
Adele
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