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New Year, New You: Create a Healing Goal | The Naked Divorce
2014

New Year, New You: Don’t Be Like Bacon-Loving Man. Create a Healing Goal to Move On!

So you ate your body weight in mince pies, turkey, chocolates and drank enough mulled wine to pickle yourself. Now what?

Now it’s time to dust yourself off and begin to think about 2014 and the NEW YOU you want to bring into being. It’s an opportunity to become clean, fresh, new and shiny bright. It’s a chance to wipe the slate clean and make some decisions about your life.

I had an interesting experience before Christmas.

As some of you know, I was doing a daily ‘Random Act of Kindness’ and decided to give away 10 online copies of my 21-day programme for all to enjoy based on the best story that people write in. Some of the stories have been incredible and hence we have awarded our prizes (only a couple left) but anyhoo, one story was a bit sad.

It was from a guy who basically wrote this sarcastic tale of bitterness about his ex wife and how badly she needs to do the programme because she is horrible, vile and needs fixing.

Of course I could not step over this email and wrote back saying that he sounded hurt and upset and wouldn’t he like to try and re-write the story so he could do the programme himself.

He then wrote back saying that he was not able to heal and would be wounded FOREVER and the only thing that brings a smile to his dial is making others happy and eating bacon. Now, I am a ridiculous fan of bacon too but come on – is this the life you have decided is for you?

We went back and forth for a while and the crux of it was — and he admitted —  he did not want to heal.

He got too much out of not healing (sympathy from others, an excuse to live a small life, enjoying feeling stuck and enjoying having a sad story as well as feeling righteous about how his ex ruined his life).

When I pointed out that he had no commitment to healing at all, he agreed and got angry and stopped engaging. So, ladies and gentlemen readers, hear my plea:

Life is short. Life is precious. Life is for living and not suffering or spending years hating your ex or living a rubbish existence so you can feel vindicated. That’s just sad and victim-like behaviour.

Get busy living and do not take it lying down. Don’t be like Bacon-Loving man and accept a less-than-amazing-life because you just don’t want to heal. It’s all about believing it’s possible and then going out there and making it happen.

The first step is to have a HEALING GOAL.

This is a vivid movie in your mind that you can day-dream about and work on every single day. It has colours, sounds, feelings and a beginning, middle and ending. It’s a little vision of yourself healed, better, living a wonderful life.

So, here it is – my gift to you, to use and enjoy. You can either download the PDF copy by clicking on the icon below or you can follow along in this post. THEN if you haven’t already, sign up to my newsletter to receive the Break up Reboot audio programme free of charge.

Listen to that daily for 21-days imagining your HEALING GOAL and Bob’s your uncle: stuff will start to happen. Miraculous stuff. I promise. If you get stuck, you know where we are.

Enjoy and may 2014 be your best year yet!!

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Adele

Click on the HEALING GOAL image below and use the PDF file or just do the exercise below. Your call!

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1. Choose a very specific HEALING GOAL that you will work with on a daily basis.

Make sure that this goal is something that is really important and meaningful to you. It should make you feel good imagining yourself having achieved that goal.

2. Create a picture in your mind’s eye that would indicate to you that your goal has already been accomplished.

For example, if your goal is to heal from your past relationship and be even better off than you were before, your inspiring outcome might be that you are walking down the street, your head held high, looking gorgeous and feeling empowered, amazing, light and free.

Your ex walks past you and calls your name. You wave and feel grateful and inspired. There is no worry or angst remaining as you go over to say hello. Your inspiring outcome is the end result. (You don’t have to have your ex in your goal, this is just an example).

3. To find your inspiring outcome, ask yourself the following three questions:

a. “How would I know that my goal had been accomplished?”

b. “Where would I be and what would I be doing when my goal has been accomplished?”

c. “What will I see, hear, and feel when my goal has been accomplished that will indicate to me that my goal is realised?”

4. Write out your HEALING GOAL describing in exact detail what you will see, hear, feel (emotionally and physically), taste and smell when your goal is complete.

5. Listen to your complimentary Naked Divorce Break Up Reboot programme as often as you like, imagining the same goal for at least 21 days consecutively. Make sure you will not be disturbed while you listen to the programme.

The naked divorce Break Up Reboot contains powerful suggestions specifically designed to gently suggest powerful affirmations to your subconscious mind. As you listen you’ll hear dual voice commands at one particular point in the recording (very different voices, one in each ear), a powerful tool, which distracts the conscious mind whilst your unconscious mind is supported in making positive changes.

Express your goal in all five senses:

• V – Visual (sight)

• A – Auditory (sound)

• K – Kinesthetic (feeling, both touch and emotion)

• G – Gustatory (taste)

• O – Olfactory (smell)

As your mind experiences reality, it filters reality through your five senses; it receives input from what you are seeing, hearing, feeling, tasting and smelling.

The purpose of listening to the Naked Divorce Break Up Reboot is to help you imagine your HEALING GOAL using the five senses.

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Research shows that when you use your imagination like this, you can create an imagined experience so real that your mind cannot tell the difference between your imagined experience and reality.

When this happens and your mind believes that your imagined experience is actually real, chemical reactions take place in your brain, effectively storing your imagined experience into your memory banks as if it were a real memory.

As you repeat this process of imagining using the Naked Divorce Break Up Reboot over time, you can program new false memories into your mind.

Your mind can then use these false memories as the basis for creating your reality.

The end result of all this is that you can begin to think, feel and behave in new, more productive ways that will lead you closer to your goals.

New ways of thinking, feeling and behaving will have you attracting new opportunities and resources into your life to help bring your dreams and goals into reality.

Note: You can hear each suggestion and can RELAX in the knowledge that YOU are making POSITIVE changes to your subconscious mind.

Example HEALING GOAL

Imagine that your inspired outcome for realising your perfect HEALING GOAL is to see yourself dancing and looking incredible and being adored by all the men around you. You feel amazing! Here is an example of what you might write down describing your HEALING GOAL.

Visual: (sight)

Flashing lights, bodies moving to the music, smiling people, arms up in the air, catch reflection of myself in the mirror looking amazing, gorgeous guys smiling at me and making motions towards me, champagne in tall glass…

Auditory: (hearing)

Hearing the music, glasses clanking together, murmuring of voices, laughing, guy asking me to dance etc…

Kinaesthetic: (touch)

Cold champagne in hand, feel warmth of a body next to mine, the touch of the fabric against my skin etc…

Kinaesthetic: (emotions)

Happy, contented, empowered, at peace, warm heart, excited, peaceful, grateful, appreciative, joy, mind quiet etc…

Gustatory: (taste)

Salty as I lick my lips, champagne etc…

Olfactory: (smell)

Champagne, after-shave etc…

Note: Before you program your mind, it is important to get specific about what you want to programme your mind with. Fill in your HEALING GOAL using single words or short phrases. An example of what a completed HEALING GOAL looks like can be found below.

VAKGO sensory elements

To help you extract the VAKGO information from your HEALING GOAL, I have included a list of some sensory elements that make up each of your five senses.

If you find yourself having difficulty creating some of the sensory information in your HEALING GOAL, go through the list below for the particular sense that you are working on, and see if it jogs your imagination.

Visual elements:

Objects

People

Shape

Size – big / small

Color

Brightness

Contrast – light / shade

Texture

Auditory elements:

Volume – loud / soft

Distance – near / far

Quality – clear / distorted

Background sounds

Kinaesthetic (touch) elements:

Temperature – hot / cold

Wind / water / rain against skin?

Texture and pressure

Clothing – how your clothes feel against your skin.

Are you holding anything in your hands? / Are you touching anything?

Are you sitting or lying down – if so, what does that feel like?

Movement and posture

Kinaesthetic (emotional) elements:

Emotional quality – e.g. joy, excitement, pride, gratitude etc…

Intensity – strong / weak

Location in your body – e.g. heart area, solar plexus area, head area.

Gustatory elements:

Texture

Intensity of taste

Hot / cold

Sweet / sour / salty

Olfactory elements:

Pungency / intensity of smell

Smells good / bad

Distance – close / far

MY HEALING GOAL

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My inspired outcome is…

(write one or two sentences summarizing your outcome):

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Kinaesthetic (touch)

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Kinaesthetic (emotions)

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Olfactory (smell)

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