How it works…
There are 3 phases of our trademarked naked divorce program, namely:
The first stage of the metamorphosis of a caterpillar into a butterfly, the caterpillar’s skin grows into a strong protective cocoon.
The first few days of the naked divorce program begins by creating a strong solid foundation so you have a supportive environment to ‘contain’ your transformation called the Divorce Cocoon.
Consider that you can handle any traumatic situation in life if you have a solid foundation. Being cocooned leads to a sense of being invincible in life.
You will feel invincible when you feel you:-
- are able to stand tall in the face of tough change and not be thrown off course.
- are confident and have a healthy sense of self-esteem
- are able to hold your position and withstand tough criticism, pressure and unfair judgment without being thrown off balance
Everybody has a natural, innate invincibleness within them, but when you are dealing with a traumatic event like a divorce or separation, you can sometimes allow yourself and others to put your ‘invincibleness’ to sleep.
It’s time to reawaken your invincible self.
When you have this powerful cocoon around you, you can withstand and use the strong forces from your divorce as a catalyst to transform yourself into anything you want to be. It also means you can heal faster. This transformation will also make you stronger in the face of other challenges in your life.
“What doesn’t kill you REALLY CAN make you stronger… BUT only if you have a Divorce Cocoon!” ~ Suzi, 41, graduate of the naked divorce program
Once inside the Divorce Cocoon, the next phase called Metamorphosis begins. From the outside of the cocoon, it looks as if the caterpillar may just be resting, but the inside is where all of the action is. Inside the cocoon, the caterpillar is rapidly changing.
You will be doing intensive work to focus on your old relationship, what you learnt, what the source of your divorce was, getting over your ex-husband, healing your heart and repairing relationship wounds. Rapid changes happen within a fairly rapid period of time provided that the three principles of healing are stuck to, namely;
- Healing Principle Number 1: Focus with High Intention on your healing
- Healing Principle Number 2: Take Courageous Healing Steps Daily
- Healing Principle Number 3: Ensure you have Around-the-Clock Support
During Metamorphosis, it’s important for the caterpillar to stay in the cocoon to experience the phases of metamorphosis, just like it’s important that once you commence the naked divorce 21-day program to stay in the program until the transformation is complete.
Once Metamorphosis has completed, you are ready to begin the work on your future, your desires for your next relationship, your relationship with yourself and getting back in touch with who you are as a person. You are then entering the final stages of Release and at the conclusion of this phase, not only will you feel more alive but you will begin to be free from the constraints of the past and from making excuses to delay having the life you deserve and love.
Throughout the program, you will be applying 7 foundations of transformation
There are some underlying ETHICS to adopt during the 21-day program. Every person who has completed the 21-day program successfully had certain basic ethics in place.
Foundation #2: NOURISHMENT
The second Foundation of Transformation will support you in your healing work by ensuring you eliminate foods and drink which aggravate your hormones, interrupt your sleep patterns or interfere with your ability to concentrate. With the correct habits in place, your emotional highs and lows will normalize, your stress levels will decline and healing will be ethical and healthy for you.
Foundation #3: EMOTIONS
People often avoid feeling their emotions by keeping busy or numbing themselves with alcohol or adopting Short Term Emotion-Avoidance Tactics. This is largely because inherently human beings fear emotions and are unsure of what to do with them. For most of us, we don’t understand our emotions, how they work, how to tame them or what we can learn from them. Additionally with the dawning of ‘Emotional Intelligence’ concepts in the workplace, we are encouraged to keep our emotions under wraps, be calm, peaceful and intellectualize them away. Ignoring our emotions can lead to destructive and entropic disintegration, hence why it is curious to note that since the dawning of the ‘Emotional Intelligence’ age, the worldwide divorce rates have increased.
When there is healing to be done, emotions are our greatest teachers and if harnessed, emotions can carve out powerful new ways of being. Within the naked divorce, there is a structured process for how to listen to your emotions, work with them as partners and harness their power as a catalyst for transformation. The key is to keep your heart open whilst feeling your emotions and I will show you how to do that. Learning the techniques of working with your emotions can transform your life in many beneficial ways.
Foundation #4: Work Etiquette
It’s key to remain focused on your work and keep your head in the game throughout the 21-day program. There are several techniques to follow to ensure that you have high energy and focus at work whilst at the same time you are being authentic in the processing of your emotions around your busy schedule.
Foundation #5: Commitment
Commitment to the 21-day program includes ensuring that you set up your life in a particular way so you are not distracted during the program. Your commitment will be tested so to minimize these distractions, there may be certain things you need to handle before doing the program.
Foundation #6: Divorce Angel
Every successful athlete has a coach who is rooting for them from the sidelines. It is very tempting to burden your friends with your divorce troubles but as you will see within this section, those closest to you are often a hindrance to your healing without even knowing it. Bless them, they try their damndest but often because they love you, they will let you off the hook. What you really need is someone who will hold you accountable. Someone who will hold your hand and kick your butt if required. Your Divorce Angel is a critical component to your success. You will have an opportunity to choose your Divorce Angel carefully.
Foundation #7: Game Plan
There is an intended structure for following the naked divorce 21-day program and skipping steps is you simply doing the program your own way. There is nothing wrong with doing that, but then do not expect the breakthrough results within the defined time period. For a complete transformation of your life and breakthrough results, I request you follow the structure of the program.
For some of you, this will mean surrendering!
It’s critical to plan for the naked divorce and ensure you have adequately prepared for the 21 days of work ahead of you. Clear your schedule and weekends to ensure you have the items on the shopping list and logistics list.
The foundations of transformation ensure your success in healing from your divorce, so keep them in mind throughout the time you engage with the program.