A few key testimonials
Today marks the end of an era spanning 8 years.
Today I release the past.
Today I celebrate my victories, achievements and growth.
I look forward to a very exciting future full of adventure, new friends and new horizons.
Big shout-out and acknowledgement to Adele Theron of the Naked Divorce for your love and support. For helping me to understand, healing ethically and bringing me back to life. You've taught me a whole new way to live. I'm loving my new life and it's only just begun! Love you lots girl!
From all corners of the universe join me in a virtual toast...
If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said it would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.
Clink *!*!*!* Cheers :-)"
November 28th 2011, 10:38am
Nnenna, IT Guru
Kerry Barnett, Chef, 40
Mandy, 41 - Entrepreneur
Jane, 43 - Teacher
Michael and I were in couples counselling and therapy for months and nothing changed. We decided we needed to file for divorce and someone told me about this programme. I started doing naked divorce to heal from my divorce and did NOT expect to have such an enormous breakthrough. Not only did I find out why our relationship broke down but when it came time to do the Day 16 'Vow Break' with Michael, he was so blown away by my transformation that we ended up getting back together. It's been 5 months and although we are still working through our issues, our relationship has completely changed. I now value what we had and we are actively working on the relationship vs. taking it for granted. We have a new foundation now. We know what we did wrong and are working to correct that.
This is a life-changing experience. I dont even want to think about what would have happened if I didnt do it. Therapy just didnt get back to this place. Although it's not for the faint-hearted - it's worth every tear and cent. Just DO IT.
Dawn and Michael
Petra, 48 - Doctor
Michele, Calligrapher, 42
Rebecca - Anaesthetist, 34
Michelle - Gym Manager, 34
Before finding the naked divorce, I was struggling to keep everything together and to cope with my confused feelings about my husband and what had happened. I had relied on my family and friends. The failure of counselling to help the situation before the break up made me reluctant to go that route again. I felt embarrassed by the failure of my marriage and didn't want to have to lay out the whole story again. When I started on the naked divorce, it was incredible and gave me a more concrete plan for getting through the horrible divorce process and it gave me hope that I can find a happy place where I can truly be me and be loved and cherished.What I LOVED was being able to talk on Skype from home and the whole process being so private and confidential. I found it really effective for my circumstances. I completely recommend the naked divorce instead of therapy as after my first conversation with Adele I felt that she really did "get" me - in less than 10 minutes - my fears of having to spend hours rehashing the horrible history were erased and I found the practical, process-based approach really appealing. Coaching is such a good way to describe this process. There is encouragment and honesty and direction in the sessions, there is the requirement to do some hard emotional work yourself and I certainly felt that Adele really wants me to succeed in getting through the mess and finding my happy place on the other side. I am a different human being now. I am powerful and at peace walking gracefully through my divorce!
Rosie - Actuary, 40
Lesley Wallace, Nutritionist and Personal Trainer, 36
“All I can say is WOW. I didn’t expect to get so much value from my coaching. I have been married twice before and am dealing with the break up of a 6 year relationship. Adele's insights helped me to realise that I need to stop and analyse what was going on.She helped me realise that I was not over my two divorces so subconsciously keep attracting the same men into my life over and over again. I was not so sure about wanting to deal with my divorces or about getting to the root cause of my break up, but now that I have, I feel a very bright and shiny future ahead of me. The naked divorce saved me years of misery! "
Siobhan - Dental Practitioner, 44
Susie Heath, Author of Essence of Womanhood, 60
I cannot believe I got over everything so quickly. The program is a godsend and I am very grateful for the support during my divorce. I had someone to talk to. I totally healed from my divorce and am now engaged to be married. Couldnt recommend the program more highly.
Jim, Sales Director, 50
My experience of Adele Theron’s relationship coaching has been brilliant. I found her to be very intuitive, caring and supportive, highly experienced, and wonderfully direct. Adele has a great sense of humour and could easily help me to lighten my intensity which was refreshing for me. She cares about getting results for her clients and gets straight to work, taking no prisoners! Something that stays in mind is hearing Adele say that she will be fully satisfied when I am walking down the aisle, I was touched by her sincerity.
I’m 37 years old and since I was 15, I had basically never been single for more than a few weeks. I left a trail of car crash relationships behind me and after witnessing the last one, Adele intervened offering her help. I said “Hell yes please!” I was aware that my relationship behaviour was the same with nearly every boyfriend, I was insecure, jealous, defensive and I rarely allowed anyone to get close to my heart. I would continuously break up and get back together with my partners, I drove them, myself and my poor friends nuts! I had an idea that my past experiences were causing this behaviour but I didn’t know what to do about it as I could never seem to break the pattern.
The first thing Adele did was ban me from dating for a whole month.. WHAT?! This was to stop me from falling straight into an identical relationship destined for the same ending and actually take the time to heal my past to prepare for the future. My friends thought the date ban was hilarious, they had never known me without some kind of relationship drama going on and were ready to tell Adele if I should cheat. I didn’t cheat.
Then came the homework, which is very powerful, it helped me to identify my negative patterns and to be clear on what I truly want from a relationship. Adele provided me with excellent tools to deal with situations that arose and supported me completely throughout the process. I soon realised that I knew nothing about successful relationships as her advice was always so far from what I would have chosen to do.
The homework was brought to life during our first coaching session, it was fascinating. Adele uncovered my subconscious negative beliefs about men which was causing me to attract the same kind of man or situation into my life, she then released the fear attached to that.
I found the coaching quite difficult at times because I really had to face myself and that’s not always comfortable but is essential for growth and change. Adele was amazing she held my hand when I needed but also challenged me, regularly, to get the results we both wanted.
Four months on, I am still single I’ve not been on any dates since my coaching began and am loving every minute. I was given the green light to go play in the sandpit about 2 months ago but I wasn’t ready. I’m taking my time for a change and enjoying not being consumed by my relationship dramas. I was longing for a lasting relationship before and was probably trying to make situations work knowing full well that they never would. Now, I’m very happy to wait until I meet someone special who has the qualities that are important for me to feel secure. I am far more discerning, taking time with my decisions and not rushing into dating through fear of missing out which may sound silly, but it’s a big deal for me.
My relationships with my family have improved dramatically as well, Adele helped me to release many negative thoughts and emotions from my past. I feel like I have been given a completley fresh start with the insight to make a big difference to my future.
I would highly recommend working with Adele to anyone, she has been a huge inspiration to me and a great mentor.
From my friends, family, future hubby and I, thank you so much Adele. X
Leigh, Nutritionist, 37
Some people who attended the book launch...
Hi Shelley, thank you for your email.
I've just completed the 21 day program and I feel at peace with myself and my new life. I've no idea if you have direct communication with Adele but if you do please can you tell her from me what a remarkable woman she is and how remarkable this programme is. When my marriage fell apart 3 months ago I wasn't prepared to wait for time to heal me and was utterly determined to find a way through the pain. And one very early morning I searched the internet for someone or something that could get me out of my living hell and I found this website!
I am looking forwards now instead of back and what a difference, so thank you so very, very much.
Siobhan - a client who completed the 21-day programme
Jim, 43 - Business Owner
The Naked Divorce team helped me make a very important decision in my life. I feel empowered and clear for the first time in 10 years. I feel like there is a future ahead of me now. I am extremely grateful for the process's laser-focus and non-therapeutic methods. It was therapy that made me stuck in a rut for so long and literally 2 hours with Adele and her team sorted me out completely.
I highly recommend this service for people who have no patience for therapy and just want to get on with finding a solution.
I am thoroughly satisfied with the coaching I received. It was brilliant. I could sense that I was killing many friendships by discussing my ex and my relationship issues with everyone. Having a professional make sense of the whole process I was going through and listenning to me really helped. Adele is also really amazing - a straight shooter, she told me exactly how it is and it was SO refreshing to finally have some true answers as to why my relationships weren't working out or why I kept attracting the same losers into my life. I look forward to the future now being 'baggage clean' and have already been on a date with a really amazing guy!
Alex - Lawyer, 45
I had been divorced for 4 years and wanted to be involved in a healthy relationship. The Naked Divorce coaching really enabled me to get all the issues from the past resolved so I could move forward with my future. I was very impressed with the rigor of the process and really enjoyed many of the exercises we did together - they really worked. I am very grateful to be dating again - didn't think it was going to happen!
Tracey-Marie - Doctor, 36
So I worked through the 'Finding the source of your divorce' programme yesterday. It was tough but also useful as I really thought about being in the marriage and the dynamic we had. I definitely was the Poodle. I took on the role of wife being subservient in order to try and counter the effect that my earning capacity and super-woman-ness was having on his ego. It seemed that the harder I worked (to get his approval), the more he put me down and I should have made myself more helpless and vulnerable so that he could be the hero. The sad thing is that when those opportunities arose (like when I had my accident and really needed him to step in and take care of me), he couldn’t do it. I made so many excuses for him and even pretended to myself that he was doing things that he actually wasn’t doing. He accused me so often of the checklist thing. I tried to negotiate with him on what was reasonable (especially in terms of time spent with me and the children) and he just wouldn’t talk about it. I think I did do a bit of the mummy thing too but I think it was because I was trying to take on the female role (again to counter the earnings thing). I needed to have asked him for help more and been a damsel.
The drama triangle was a hard one to consider. He really is a big bully (“see what you made me do”) and this was his coping mechanism. While saying that he was my biggest fan he put me down constantly and made all sorts of other things much more important than our relationship. He definitely showed (and stated) a lack of commitment. He has this big fear of failure and always holds back so that he has an excuse for not succeeding. He really is very selfish and he keeps telling me that his needs had to be met – without saying what these are! Others experience him as a difficult person – aggressive, opinionated – who needs to be accommodated. And he also let himself go physically from very early on and he made a big thing of it, saying he didn’t care. I always felt this was a public declaration that he didn’t have respect for me or need to put an effort in for me.
So I lived in the dreamworld of thinking that when x, y and z happened everything would be ok – he’d have time for me and the girls and we’d live my dream life. In the meantime I worked hard to fill the (leaking) bucket and boost his ego while he bullied me and took advantage of the financial benefits of being with me. It is so much easier to dump me than to thank me.
So I’ve learned a lot and thought about who he really is and what he has done but also how I acted and responded that perpetuated it. Truly insightful and fascinating!
Mary, business professional
My current challenges concurrently have been:
1) 2nd husband asked me for a
divorce this summer,
2) Been unemployed since July and
3) dealing with health issues and from all this, I know I will come out the other side
stronger than ever because they are all gifts to learn from. I have had the greatest lessons from Adele Theron on getting
to the root cause of divorce--I have greater clarity on the role I played and also now get why I've been attracting a certain type of person into my life. My goal is to learn and not to repeat the same pattern and to have
great discernment with people moving forward. I can no longer be put into
or choose situations and relationships where people expect me to save
them. Thank you SO much!
I know that I am so much better for having been under the guidance of naked divorce when I felt so lost. The amazing thing about what Adele did was that she showed me that I really could find my way through this mess and helped me unlock the strength inside me to keep going. She was firm but reassuring. I am still hoping for a settlement but I am making it clear that I am prepared to fight for what I have earned and for what is fair and reasonable. It looks like it’s going to be a long process still but I feel proud of myself for being clear and consistent in my stance. Sometimes it’s so hard to see that there will be a way through and a happy place on the other side and other times it is so tantalising close at hand. She showed me how to find the positives and use these to overcome the negatives and to recognise the things I do that prevent me from getting to my happy place.
Roxanne, investment specialist, 40
When I first started The Naked Divorce coaching, I found that I was still very focused on the past, trigger memories and all the “could’ve, would’ve, should’ve thoughts were very constant and I was missing my married life very much. I was also getting too bogged down with yearning for everyone to pity me as much now as they did when my breakup first occurred 2 years earlier. I was experiencing a sense of feeling that my life was “over” in a way and that my ex’s life was much better than mine overall.
Before I found the Naked Divorce I tried to find the right support, I had sought counselling through one-on one therapy in person or I was on the phone with psychotherapists, licensed clinical social workers and family counsellors. Just as stated in Adele’s book, these sessions did help me discover and acknowledge a certain family pathology in my personality and my expectations about marriage. But what was missing was a suggested blueprint for HOW to build a path towards an unknown future. Although I did appreciate learning a lot about myself and how my mind worked due to my own past, it tended to keep me in the “past.” I was often telling people I still needed a “hook phrase” to settle me into a peace about this life changing event – even though a part of me still wanted the battle scars to be recognised.
When I started the coaching with the Naked Divorce it had an immediate impact on my life. Having a clear calendar (which rarely happened for me) and for the first time having to examine my own self, my own life and especially my own marriage without interruption or outside opinions was a big step. I realised early on that this was not going to deal with issues just at face value, I realised it was important to dig deep and try hard to remember every detail and really get below the surface. I remember not even wanting to peek at the next day’s exercise because it was all I could do to face the day of.
I was very satisfied by the real quality of the coaching. Completing this program helped me overcome the sadness without taking away my right to acknowledge I was hurt (from an unwanted divorce). In doing the important daily exercises, it helped me bring the past into correct focus, it taught me about all of my strong & weak points and gave me permission to see the future in a brighter way...and a path to help me stay corrected along the way."
I Chose the Naked Divorce over other traditional approaches because although previous therapy was helpful it was not structured nor goal oriented. Simply stumbling across Adele's YouTube videos where she described the EXACT emotional roller coaster I was on, without making me feel that I was crazy, was like finding hidden treasure. I now have goals I’ve created for my next steps in my healing journey.
My Goals in maintaining my grounded routine and reviewing my exercise notes and results regularly help me battle the occasional self doubts and it really anchors me.
Actively reading my Personal Manifesto and Daily declarations reminds me that I exist and that I matter! And Through having something to work towards and achieving my items on my... “Before I die list” I find myself adding new ones too. It gives me vision and insight.
I would DEFINATELY recommend The Naked Divorce and to anyone who has or is experiencing a divorce.
I read the book after reading over 20 other books on the subject. I wish I had stumbled on Adele Theron's book earlier. With her no-nonsense, cut-to-the-chase and logical approach book, Adele walks you through the divorce journey and helps you handle the highs and lows of divorce in a very ethical manner. Divorce is tough and you go through a wide range of feelings. I went through alternating feelings of considering my spouse the villain and the cause of everything wrong in my life and sometimes going through enormous guilt and thinking my spouse was right all along. Naked Divorce makes you work through these feelings and gets a much more balanced view of where things are. I strongly recommend the book and the program available on her website. This program is not for those who just want to feel good or have a book that is temporarily uplifting and then you are back in the rut. This book and the program will make you work. In the end, it is worth it.
Adele is a phenomenal coach and mentor. The progress I have made with her guidance has ultimately given me access to self love and acceptance which in turn has precipitated a romantic relationship with the person I deem to be my soul mate (a relationship that would not have been possible before the breakthrough in loving myself). We have just moved in together and just had a beautiful baby boy! She has also coached me on taking a stand for myself which time and again reaps huge benefits in a variety of relationships around me.
Adele is compassionate, intelligent and rigorous and her intuition means that she has an uncanny knack of getting to the heart of the matter.
Rachel, Environmental Consultant, 35
I was really battling to concentrate at work. The divorce was such a nightmare that I couldnt stay focused on anything for more than a few minutes. The focus of the coaching and program really helped me not only get over Michelle, but get on with my new life. Helped me with my anger too!
Mark, Program Manager, 43
"Amazing - what an amazing process! I had so many breakthroughs. My ex husband and were not talking at all and I hadn't actually quantified what the impact of that could be on my life. Everything is sorted out now and I feel amazing about my life. Just to think a few weeks ago I was such a mess. I loved the Divorce Cocoon and still use it today to hold my balance amidst the chaos. Thank you for designing this process which held me together during the emotional highs and lows I was experiencing. I have a very demanding job and it meant so much to be able to keep my head in the game and not lose a moment"
Joanna, Investment Banker, 36
From an initial chat with ongoing consultations and exercises, I fully recommend her service which restored my self-esteem after just one conversation.
I have gotten over my ex and after a year of celibacy, have finally let go with another woman. I feel like a new man!
Russ, Investment Banker, 48
DAMN - the angels are GOOD. It's like having a coach in your pocket. Quick response, always knowing what to do next -- really helped me navigate through the chaos of my break up and know how to handle my slightly psycho ex. Fantastic service!
Matt, Entrepreneur, 30
Naomi. Entrepreneur and Founder of ACHIEVEToday, 34
I have transformed so much as a woman in the last few weeks I don't recognise myself. I can categorically say that I have dealt with 35 years of baggage, got clear on why I kept attracting 'Rescuers' into my life in relationships, have a better and healthier relationship with my family, with myself, with food and alcohol. I know that the next man will be absolutely amazing for me because I now know something I didn't know before: I love myself.
Thank you Thank you Thank you!
Maria, Legal Secretary, 39
I was really battling to get over my ex and had a string of really bad relationships after him. Adele helped me identify where I was stuck and how my anger and upset at my ex (what Adele calls the 'ex-hexes') was actually keeping me from having a healthy relationship. I feel so much better after my coaching sessions - things seem so much clearer to me now. I am in an amazing relationship now for the first time in 8 years, didn't think it was possible, am so grateful.
Lisa, Film Producer, 36
WOW! I cannot believe how much value I got from this coaching. Adele put SO much of herself into each session and I just felt like I was being profoundly taken care of. I have healed from my divorce but more importantly have a new relationship with myself and my future. I wake up in the mornings excited about who I will meet today and feel responsible for managing my baggage and my issues so they don't cloud my relationships in the future.
I feel new and shiny again. It was a terrific investment in myself - better results than any therapist I've been too and cheaper too!
Diana - Pediatric Nurse, 46
Before the coaching I thought that my life would either be bad or very bad. My husband had cheated and I believed we would get divorced. The course brought me (my thoughts and feelings) out of the dark and onto a rainbow of positivity hope and love.
Today I feel my husband and I are and can have a happy loving life and family together.
Sophia, Marketing Director, 38
Adele really helped me strategise how to get my ex to move out and how to have those tough conversations with him. Not only did that get handled seemlessly but I got back into a powerful place quickly and went to war on my baggage from past relationships. It was transformational and incredible. Thank you!
Joan - Sales Director, 52