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Compromising Who You Are? Look Forward to that Midlife Crisis

Relationships are about compromise. Right? I mean, we hear that a hundred times a day. It’s drilled into us non-stop. If you want to make your marriage work, you have to be willing to compromise. But what does “compromise” actually mean? There’s a huge difference between accepting that you won’t always get your way and… Read More

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Are You a Therapy Junkie?

Recently I had a client in her 60s (I’ll call her Tammy) who had spent 12 long years in therapy, trying to figure out what was wrong with her and searching for ways to improve. Tammy had tried every self-help, positive thinking, mind-opening, behaviour-correcting course you can think of. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy? Check! DBT? Check!… Read More

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Why Losing Your Home Feels Like the Worst Part of Late Life Divorce

Congratulations! You made it all the way through to retirement together. You survived all those early fights, the nappy duties, the teenager tantrums, the little jealousies and resentments, the financial strains, the never-ending couple conflicts, and now… Now you’ve decided enough is enough. You don’t want to grow old together, after all. You’re getting divorced…. Read More

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Starting a Second Marriage? Don’t Assume You’ve Learned from Your Mistakes

No doubt you already know these depressing statistics: nearly half of all marriages in the US and the UK end in divorce. What you might not realise is that this number doesn’t decrease as we get older and wiser and (theoretically) better at figuring out what we want in a life partner. In fact, it… Read More

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Why You Should Never, Ever Say: “I’m Doing This Because I Love You”

When Ann was a teenager, her parents went through a terrible divorce. Her father had always been volatile, but when her mother finally told him they couldn’t stay living in the same house indefinitely after the split, he lost it. He drank a bottle of vodka, smashed every item of furniture in the house, then… Read More

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3 Ways You’re Dooming a Relationship Before It Begins

Have you been single since what seems like forever – and miserable about it? If so, you may be falling into one of these common self-defeating traps. 1) You Raise the Wrong Bars Way Too High I’m not suggesting you settle for something or someone that just isn’t right for you. I’ve talked before at… Read More

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A Tale of Two Singletons: Part Two – Let Down Your Long Hair

This is the second part of a two-part series. To read the first part, click here. In my last post, I talked about one kind of eternally single friend that we all seem to have: the type who we know is awesome, isn’t shy about meeting people and always seems to have the next hot… Read More

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Tantrum Club News Article!

Check out the latest article about Tantrum Club below!

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A Tale of Two Singletons: Part One – You Don’t Know What’s Good For You

We all have that amazing friend who’s perpetually single, and we just can’t work out why.  You know the type: she’s smart, brilliant, beautiful and tons of fun. She dips her toes in the dating pool – perhaps she’s even the type who always seems to have the next date lined up. And yet, nothing… Read More

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False Healing 101: Why Painting Over the Cracks Won’t Stop You Crumbling

Do people keep telling you to give yourself time to heal? That you just need to put some distance between yourself and your trauma? Simply wait for long enough and you’ll feel much better, get over it, and move on. Well… tell them to get stuffed. Time is not a healer. Time doesn’t do anything,… Read More

    • "The loneliness you feel with another person, the wrong person, is the loneliest of all." Deb Caletti