I was a happily married person back in 2008 – but in actual fact, I wasn’t all that happy. It was something I told people over and over again and wasn’t sure I believed it anymore.
I had a big corporate career and have worked on some of the world’s biggest transition projects globally as I specialised in moving people through big corporate changes fast BUT I was in an unhappy marriage.
It was April 2009 that my ex-husband dropped the bombshell: he had cheated and he was leaving me. I felt like the ground was going to swallow me whole. As he left the house, I stood in my kitchen totally unsure of what on earth I was going to do with myself. It was during this time of wild craziness and anxiety that I visited 3 therapists (I kept firing them out of boredom at the slow pace and the doctors kept throwing new ones at me). I was utterly astounded at the nonsense being fed back to me. One by one, they said it would take me years to recover. They said I had big issues from my childhood that needed unpacking. They said I needed at least 2 years of therapy.
Well, when I heard that, I was outta there. I knew what they were saying was absolute BS. Everything I did in my work was about producing major transformation in a short period of time. If global multinationals could merge 2 divisions in under 3 months and outsourcing projects could take 6 months and I could manage all that – how on earth was 1 divorce going to take 2 years?!? Someone wasn’t being straight with me.
I became mad with anger and in my fury, totally trashed my kitchen and broke alot of things. My mother thought I had lost the plot – but I also became reborn across those 3 weeks. As I lay on my kitchen floor, I spent 3 days writing a process for my own recovery. I knew the stages I would go through and I was going to push myself through them fast.
And I did – I got over the whole thing in 19 days. I even called my ex and completed a Vow Break with not only him but the 18 women he cheated on me with. I felt epic.
So you may ask me how on earth is this possible?
How could this make sense?
It’s because there is a massive conspiracy within traditional therapy. Therapists have the wherewithal to treat patients quickly but they don’t. There is a conflict of interest because they are paid by the hour (and not by the result) so their job is to keep their clients weak enough to need them but help them with tiny incremental changes so they don’t become disgruntled.
In the corporate world, change specialists and executive coaches have to use top of the range techniques to move people through changes fast. Unfortunately most therapists don’t use these techniques. The only therapists who pride themselves on working fast are the trauma PTSD therapists who are known to heal people in under 8 weeks.
SO, I wrote about it. I did a post grad in Trauma and PTSD treatments at Reading university, trained with the Berkshire trauma service, became a family mediator and bobs your uncle, here we are.
I have spent the past 19 years helping organisations and people cope with change and overcome trauma. I have personally worked with close to 7000 people to achieve rapid transformation either in corporate programmes or one-on-one.
I have published several books and articles and have been featured in 89 publications as a divorce expert across the globe. My life is ALL about empowering people through change, fast.